Yes I am using this blog as a sounding board. I am venting, throwing out my dirty laundry, in the hope that i can collect my thoughts and abate my anger, instead of exploding on my dear, darling husband!
So people, I am reading this new book called “Women’s Wisdom”, by Rabbi Shalom Arush. He would probably reel at this exposition of female fury. Anyway, somewhere in the book he says that marriage is more difficult that the splitting of the red Sea!! I can believe it!! he also says to have no ego, and always be the one to give in. Never contradict one’s husband, no matter how wonderful or how terrible they are. That is what was determined for you, and live with it, and pray for a turn around in circumstances.
Truly i am doing it no justice. the book is actually excellent and very insightful. i am just having a problem with feeling a little exhausted, mentally frazzled, physically burnt out, and wholly unappreciated!
I look at my friends husbands – rather I “looked”, because now after reading the book that would no longer be appropriate! It “seemed” that they compliment their wives, expound on all that they do, and stop short of licking the ground their wives walk on. Perhaps that is just my own warped perception.
Really, I do have a wonderful husband. I just want to shake him! He is oblivious to what I do, and focuses on what I don’t do. Not that he is mean, mind you, he isn’t. He just is not too attentive in any way good or bad. maybe that is better than someone who is too picky, too demanding, too finicky. I could not deal with that. Just sometimes it would be nice to hear a freaking compliment, receive a rose, or a “hi honey, I thought of you today here is an x, y, or z”. Not that I need the gifts, I don’t. I need the thought.
Anyway – I bought him the men’s version of the book. Now… how the heck do i get him to read it? But hopefully if we are both reading it, and both putting our ego’s aside, then perhaps we will have true marital bliss! If such a thing actually exists!
Husbands out there, who are reading this – do yourself, your marriage and your wives a favour – appreciate her! you will be a very happy man.