Thank you all for responding either via FB or here, and offering me some sound advice.
I did have a long talk with my daughter. Nothing berating or soul-destroying. And in that same conversation, I acknowledged my newfound blatant addiction to my computer. Morning, noon and night. She understands that Mommy too has to exercise a bit of self-restraint and self-control too.
As much as we were both enjoying the kids watching videos(including her), for very different reasons, we both agreed that it was really futile. We also spoke about issues at school, and what we were going to do to improve things.
I then had a chat with Sugardaddy that this was a very important thing for me, and I do not want it to be at the expense of my children – G-d forbid! I explained to him, and myself, and reinforcing it again now on my blog, that this is the beginning. Everything is upside down, while we are learning the various systems, and how things are going to work. But soon it will be second nature.
So – this morning, and in fact the whole day – the TV remained off. They must have asked me at least 50 times, with the poutiest little mouths and the most pleading big eyes, to please allow them to watch a movie. I remained strong. Then we had a family meeting tonight, where I specified exactly what was going to be expected of them. I also put a reward system in place.
So these were the results for today:
An encouraging, approving phone call from her teacher, who called from school this afternoon. Telling me how hard my baby had worked and how proud of her she was. As she came home, she went to her room and did all her homework. Kids all ate dinner, and then the older two cleared the table and put dishes in the dishwasher. ( Gasp ; sigh!) And everyone was asleep long before 9pm……….
Now to keep up with this! THAT is the challenge!